28 and kicking

So, I promised to do more blog posts and I have been failing!! Well happy new year first of all!

We are in February and a sister has turned 28🎉! As I always do, write down my goals I want to achieve this year I just decided to have my goals in my head and pray about it. And I also decided to take more bold steps or else I won’t be able to achieve my goals by 29.

Honestly, so far so good. I can’t complain! I have also decided that I would be going to more events to support my own instead of doing this by sharing posts and just reccommending to others

So my BOBs do send me invites I will try my best to be at your events and other activities happening! Let’s get together and chat!

Show me what your about.. send me info

28 means, favor greatness and bold

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MsHair.uk Review

Hey Beautiful Readers,

Your girl is BACKKK! I know this is actually the first post of 2018, and 2018 has actually come to an end😅.

Do forgive me, as ALOT has happend and I got too much to tell you! But this post will not be about my life. It is about a product I purchases recently from

MSHAIR.UK, and I want to do a review about their product! I know I know, Youtube would’ve been great, but since I am not on youtube y’a should just read this and understand me 🤣.

Basically, i got tagged in this and i did not even hesitate to get it. Well, MsHair UK basically made my dream come through. I don’t have edges to save my life! So this company sells this product which makes you have edges for the Gawds, within SECONDS!

yes, Seconds!? I will put up some pictures so you can see my before and after. And I will tell you what I think of the product.

The company specializes in a foundation fibre that gives you edges or covers grey hair.

I purchased the hair foundation fibres with the edge perfector. It was easy to purchase, and like the website stated it will be dispatched 12-36hours and they did. I got my delivery on time and i liked the packaging.

I got so excited as well and could not wait to use it. Honestly I was happy!

As a natural lady, i had my hair washed 2 days before, put some eco styling gel nd a bit of Wax for my “edges” so after styling my hair nd putting it in a puffy bun, i then applied the fibre from MsHairUK. Within a minute or two i was done and satisfied!

My edges were fleeked for the day, and imagine it was also on my friends babyshower which i co-organised and hosted. And it was fleeking all day.

Me being me, i did not use a scarf to sleep (I honestly don’t like that), woke up nd gone😂 i did not expect it to stay but at least hang in there small 🙄😂😂.

Anyway, rating it 0-10, I give it a 8. Why not a 10? Because I did not purchase the whole kit. So i believe with the whole kit, it can get a 10. Also, what i noticed is while applying, i thought I would have the fibres on my clothes.. but NO! Proper CLEAN! And you don’t have to worry that you will sweat it off. So would I reccommend it to my sisters ? YAAAAAAS!

It is worth any penny. And believe me I don’t use it on a daily basis but you will know when I have it, cause I will be doing the most🤣.

To purchase the foundation fibre kit

IG: Mshair.uk

Website: http://www.mshair.co.uk

And if you have questions you can ask them on their website as well.

My Befores…

And After the Use of the product🤗

#SupportingBOB #MShair.UK #NaturalHair

Feel free to leave a message or comment behind. This post was my review and based on my experience.

If you want to see how I use it and create a nice simple Look, i will post a video On SnapChat this coming saturday (27Oct) so follow me

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Waiting for your time to shine

Good day my beautiful readers. I hope all is well with you all. It has been a while and I was meant to write a post already but anytime I started, I felt like the message was not good enough.
So now I am, just a day or two before the new year. Some people have made a whole list of things what they are going to change or do for 2018, some are just waiting for the clock to hit midnight and drink and others, are probably jus going to sleep or will be at churches, mosques or family.

Whatever you choose to do, and however you choose to celebrate 2018, do it with love. Unfortunately some may be mourning over a death, or even someone close to you is sick. You are also in my prayers and I wish you the best and hope you stay strong.

The title for today is “waiting for your time to shine”. It was quite difficult for me to get a good topic for this post as I will point out a few things. As you may already know (if you have read my previous posts) I always talk from my own personal experiences and of people I know of. What I don’t know for sure I rather not talk about. Reasons because I do have people genuinely messaging me asking advice or encouraging me, and I appreciate it and feel it, simply because I have experienced it or I know someone who has so it always feels real to me.

Waiting for your time to shine, when you read this sentence you probably think.. waiting for the day that YOU MAKE IT. Well yes and no.
Yes because we have All gone through a tough time in our lives. Someone reading this may even go through it now. When I say tough I mean difficulty! This is all different to one another.
My difficulty can be financially not being able to provide for my family, whereas someone else’s difficulty is finding love. Someone can go through a death of a family member or friend, when someone else is finding it difficult to be a good yoke has their struggle and I am here to let you know that IT IS OKAY!

You see what I have learned is, whenever you go through a difficult time, and you pounder on it, the only thing that is happening is that it becomes worse. Why? Because you are just stressing about it without taking action. Some decide to now go and discuss it with everyone around them. Which can help but it is not everyone who needs to know about your difficulty or struggle. You see the tongue is powerful, and like I just said, everyone’s difficulty is different. So to you it may be a major thing but to your friend or sister it is nothing. And some don’t even understand why you find it difficult. Which is why I STRONGLY believe in there is a time to SHINE.

A few things what us young people do nowadays just not to let the world see that we are struggling and not even helping ourselves from our difficulties..

Social media, we tend to show of a lot! We will post the nicest pictures, at the nicest destinations, with our extraordinary outfits and caption things like.. God is good, and Living my best or any long post which makes it seem like we are doing fabulous. Great stuff, not a problem.. but do you know what you are doing..? You are just like the celebrities on TV who are always smiling yet, we All read and hear what happens the day after. Don’t fool yourself my brothers and sisters. Do not fool us on social media and after the post now think of how to pay your bills or ask God why no man wants you, or why no woman wants you.
Rather, post a picture yes, but don’t go on and captioning things which is far from the truth. And don’t deceive yourself with your own picture. If you are not the person in the picture why should you post it on your social media and fool us that it is you. Do not catfish yourself. Be true to yourself because you are not hurting us, but only yourself. Just for a few comments and likes which mean NOTHING. The comments are not true because we react based on what you tell us. A sister or a brother can not help you when you are posting pictures of you living life, but yet you need bread to eat. How can I know my brother or sister is starving? And you are shocked when a friend asks you for help, you cannot even help yourself. So be true to yourself.

Lying to our family or friends
I get it, sometimes you don’t want others to know you are going through difficult times, so instead of reaching out, you lie whenever you are asked if you are doing fine. Cool but there are people who actually care about you. Speak to someone about your problem.i did not say speak to PEOPLE. I said someone. There is ALWAYS someone who you can trust. And if you have trust issues, find a community an office, your religion a safe place, anonymous number, speak to someone! Trust me IT HELPS. Why do I say that, because your tongue is powerful letting it all out makes you feel not only better but it can release some stress. It can help you. And funny enough the person who you are speaking to may even find a solution to your problem. Don’t always play superhero and think you can do it by yourself. I used to be that person.

Always thinking I can do it myself and then kept it for myself and always trying to solve my own issues. But it may even be more difficult because you have only one mind. Another persons mind can help you. And yes it did. Do you think I don’t struggle at times, yes I do, and because I have a partner the first person I turn to is my partner. And we solve the issue together. Even as a mother and wife, I cry at times because I think I am having a hard time solving an issue until my partner tells me not to worry and we find a solution together.
Couples cry singles do to. Rich people cry and poor people do to. So never think that your situation is to much or too little to discuss or solve.

Therefore wait till it’s your time to shine. Not literally wait by not doing anything.
Looking for a job.. get up do research search for that job, ask people don’t keep quiet. Yes maybe the first two, three maybe even four applications will be thrown away but YOUR TIME WILL COME.
You can’t find love, we’ll start loving yourself. It’s not everyday falling for any person you see. Change your ways. Change your attitude, your way of thinking, your bad habits. If you are a religious person you pray. The love will come. Double check yourself. Maybe it’s as simple as, being clean, doing your hair, going barbers, brushing your teeth when you get up. Learning to cook, stepping outside your comfort zone. Nothing putting such a high standard because nowadays we look at the person with the most money, who is popping in our area, girlfriend/boyfriend is the person going to love YOU only. Or is the person going to love the money and fame more then you. Don’t settle for less.

Don’t aim for a doctor if you yourself are not willing to help him/her when’s/he is off duty. Don’t aim for a billionaire, if you are not willing to walk next to your partner as one. Don’t aim for a wife if you can’t be her husband. Don’t aim for a husband if you can’t be his husband. Aim high yes, but always work towards the record you are setting. Don’t aim and expect someone who has that standard to do all the work and you now come and enjoy.

Do not let your friends talk fool you!
This happens EVERY SINGLE DAY. When that your friend is BRAGGING about his or her life, being all perfect like EVERY DAY. Let me tell you something IT IS NOT.
The person is a fake. S/he has more issues then you. If you have a friend who never seem to have it bad. They always have it worse then you. Don’t ever let it fool you.. and especially when it really seems like it’s all good because they have kids, married, a job, look well presentable. Baby boy, babygirl. It’s a lie ! They have put on a mask so that you won’t see it. What do you do to someone like that, stay away and don’t tell them YOUR problem because they are only hurting you and making your problem seem way worse then it already is. They won’t help you solve it, they only make you feel more insecure about your own issue.

Listen!!
Be a good listener if you are not, try to always listen when someone speaks. Why? Because even a fool makes sense or says something that sticks in your head. Only take the positive things in mind. Trust me. A stupid person even will say something which s/he is not meant to say, a person who talks to much, well talks way to much. A sensible person will help you by listening. Sometimes we have to be silent and just listen! I talk a lot at times, but I have learned to also listen. I listen to people and pick up what will benefit me. If it doesn’t I will throw it out of my mind. If I am unsure I will ask or research about it. That is what I do now. Everything which comes out of my friends mouth is something I pick up.if it’s not important best believe the next time you ask me I won’t remember, because I have thrown it away.

Wait for your time to shine, how do you do that.
Whatever your problem is, big or small. It is never TOO much you can’t handle. It may seem unbearable but you are dealing with it and will survive. Someone else can not handle it but You can and the day will come that you will laugh about the situation or even yet understand why you went through that situation.
Sometimes things happen to us so that we turn our lives around. Sometimes w have to go through tough times, to get our own attention. You see I will always say that me going to prison was my own fault. I committed the crime, before I used to say the devil this and the devil that. It was on ME. I needed to shift my attention to something and I didn’t I was ignorant and the only way to do that was to go through what I went through. And that is how I gotten to sit down and focus on myself. And if I had not been there, I am pretty sure that I would not have found my husband and have my babies.

So I can honestly say I am grateful for all the difficulties I went through. I have been through more obviously but being put away was probably the biggest thing. Also being a child who’s father was not around much was a difficult situation I had to deal with and still did when I was older. But because of actions I took and he took we are now so close. I have learned to forgive him he has forgiven himself and now me and my father are besties trust me. We call eachother at least 2-3x a week and see eachother often. We have spoken of our issues, and I did that by several letters. I have also shown him how I appreciate him on my big day and had my first dance with my father. Something I was wishing for. Some may dream of other things but I have fulfilled my dreams.

Really I have a husband, kids and my parents that I’ve both told I love. So if waiting for my time to shine was nothing. Then nothing would be worth it.

My sister my brother, whatever you are going through, it is never too much to handle and never too small to discuss. Your time to shine will come. And I hope I have helped someone by this post.

 

Please feel free to message me or comment under my post. And tell me about your difficulty that you overcame.maybe your difficulty that you went through can help another reader. Let’s help eachother!! You can also message me anonymously maybe I can help by just listening to you or if i can be of help I will try my best. Trust me if I don’t know the answer I will TELL YOU.
Let’s not judge one another and be people of love.

2018, is around the corner and I don’t do new year new goals, I only do new year added to my life, extra goals! I add my goals on my birthday so hopefully my new post will be up around my birthday.

Have a blessed new year in advance❤️. Be careful with fireworks and don’t drink to much beautiful people ❤️

Prison

Hey beautiful people,

Today is the 31st August 2017. A date which I have on paper. A day I have waited for since 31 aug 2012. Do you know why??
Should I say HAPPY 5th anniversary or …..?!?

So on the 31st August 2012, I was convicted and sentenced to 5 years imprisonment due to GBC. (Grievous bodily harm) section 18. Ok, so at the moment you hear the judge say that. Your heart your face your spirit everything LEAVES your body! I swear for like a minute I died u know!! No joke!!!

Ok, up to prison, my first place was Bronzefield I think near Heathrow airport if I am correct. The first night was so bad for me, cause the bed, was hard, the toilet looked dead to me, the room was just NAH!! Imagine in your head u can only Remember 5 YEARS. Clearly I thought I would die.. no joke! I actually PRAYED AND BEGGED God to take me away u know. ( ok, after I asked for forgiveness and for him to take care or my daughter who was then 3 and my mother) but I begged God to just let me die cause I did not know how I would survive in prison for 5 whole YEARS!! Mate even a week would be too much for me.

So I woke up (from my 10min sleep I think) cuz it was the next day and I heard my door open, I think around 7.30-8am and I could hear so much noise. Then I heard noises at my door I got scared TRUST ME I AM A P*Ssy WHEN U GET TO KNOW ME ! And this woman knocked and came in. She knew I was young and said hello and asked me why I was in bed and not up yet. I did not know what to say. So she came in and introduced herself. (I will keep her name for myself and call her my Jamaican Mum1) she then asked me to get up and get breakfast. But I said no I am not hungry (these times I hadn’t eaten since the day before and I was STARVINGGGGGG) so she quickly ran down and got me something and came back. I then got up and brushed my teeth and sat down and she then asked me to come out and not to be scared. She was so nice to me.

Before I knew it day one was over… from then I became friends with my Jamaican mum. She was a mother herself and her daughter was my age. She was very nice and made sure I had food to eat introduced me to other ladies on our wing (yes it’s called wing) told me the rules etc and how to do shopping and phone calls.

I quickly made friends and got to know a young lady who had a similar case as mine and was also a young mother. She became my friend and had been there for a few months. Her due date was after mine and that meant that I would be released before her. She was so strong and that made me strong as well. Then I met another lady who was African and I could also easily relate to her. Soon after me and her were put in a room together which I did not mind. The only think was she had no date yet as she was facing deportation. So me and her used to pray together hoping that she would not be deported. Then the day came that she went to court and she did not come back. I was hoping she got released and not deported but I did not hear from her until later I found out she got released. I was SOO happy for her. I have her contact btw😘.

Soon after weeks went by and I got sent to Downview a different and known as better prison they said. Before I left some ladies told me about it. I then also met a sister who was from Ghana and her I would call Sister1

I went to downview and I had to adjust to the place as well, but that went quick as I made friends easily and soon I got kind of used to the place.soon I found friends and aunties whom I could go to. I met Mama1 and mama 2 the two Ghanaian mothers who made it easy for me and Sister1. I worked at the gym and studied small. I then worked with ladies whom I still have some contact with and speak to at times. My second Jamaican/African mum2 she was my motivation at the gym and also mentally she knew how to keep me going.
Fast forward to 2013 when we got told that the prison may be shutting down so we are all being relocated. We were all allowed to make a top 3 but it does not necessarily mean that you will go there. Me and my sister1 became closer then ever and because we knew the same people from outside it was easier to pass time as we could talk about everything and she understood me same way I understood her. When it was time to relocate I was hoping and praying that me and her will go on the same day. Which it did not happen I was first to go. And soon she followed. By the time it was end of 2013 and when she joined at Holloway we soon found out that there will be no single rooms available only groups of 4- 5s just a limited of 2s. So me and her found a way to get into a dorm together and soon we found our lil group and had our squad.

I had my other sister2, and our mamaCita (I wish I could have her contact I miss that woman SOOO MUCH) she was from South America and was such a great woman. A mother figure and she spoke lil English. But was so caring and just prayed everyday to just get back to her children back home.

We soon got into a dorm of 4 me and my 2 sisters and our Spanish mother. This was at a advanced wing, which was for behaved prisoners. It meant that we had more advantages into more jobs. We were out more and we were just more behaved! So just a bit more freedom. Officers were not constantly on our case. They could leave the wing and we would be alone because they could trust us.

I had already put in forms to go back to the Netherlands after a long talk and various visits from the Dutch embassy and also some convincing. Yet on the other hand I was trying to stay in the U.K. Cause I felt like I could stay there for my child and get a second chance.
Then one day on the 10th march me thinking another day, they opened our room and they asked me to pack my stuff as the application was approved for me to go back to the Netherlands but I would have to do the remaining time of my sentence ( which would end 1march 2015) as the English rule was to do half of my sentence instead of the full 5 years.

So that was in the evening so I had the whole night to say goodbye to my room mates and just pack my stuff and cry etc. I did not sleep neither did day as we basically celebrated my last night with them. In the morning I did not have much time so I went on to the exit and I was on my way to the airport without making any phone call because of security reasons.

Ok, making my story short I got to holland prison did my sentence till july 4th 2014 (early release) I did not expect it and I praised God for that.

Today 5 years later.. I am married with another child, happy with my family. At first not happy that I decided to come back to holland as I did not know what to do,although I was born and raised here. My parents are proud of me. I have fully restored my relationship with my dad which was bad. My daughter is great and does so well in school. And we are expecting our 3rd baby. Life couldn’t be BETTER♥️.

 

I just want to let everyone know that God can put us in a situation. Well it was NOT GOD who told me to commit the crime. I had signs and never listened to God so the devil had to intervene and that was the only way God could get my attention.
Sometimes we struggle, or we don’t listen to signs and little things which we face day to day. God speaks to us on a regular basis, all he wants us to do is to open up when he knocks and we should also knock on his his door on a daily basis not only when we are sick. We only visit him when we need medication. He is not only a doctor he is also a friend, father and more. So don’t only see him when you are sick. When you are healed by his medication you should go and thank him too.

God works in mysterious ways, I know that. I can actually testify! I still ask him for help and I still struggle with issues. But it does not let me question my faith in him. And I don’t ask for sympathy. I am happy I went through what I went through, someone else could not even have survived a day in my shoes. Women have died in prison. Women have committed suicide. Some died right after they got released cause life was not easy outside prison. Some women will never be outside again. Some are going straight back to their country because of deportation and have no idea what will happen to them when they get back. Others have lost family members whiles being in prison and I lost nothing but TIME. Which was TIME I could spend with my daughter. I am upset about it yes. But knowing that she was fine and in save hands was more then enough for me.

I have met women who have become depressed and gone mad inside. Trust me God had me in there and he still does! People have laughed at me, mocked me, said things about me and some even still laugh with me. It did not change me or made me a bad person because those that know me know best, God knows me best! And I can say God still has me. So for everyone who ever laughed at me, was negative and still is.

God is not asleep and I don’t hate you. I would’ve probably done it if I was in your shoes. But remember that people go through hardship for a reason. So let this be a lesson if someone you know, regardless if you like them or not goes through hard times, don’t mock them. Cause you don’t know if you could handle it. The person is being tested and God wants his or her attention. Today I am happy with my husband who has accepted me for who I am. I got myself and I got God.

And I know people are struggling with other issues. Please don’t ever give up on Prayers! God is real and he does not fail.
If you ever want to talk, or want advice or even just message me feel free!!! I don’t judge I used to and I don’t anymore because trust me, laughing at your situation does not make me better!! I can easily b put in your spot and not survive ♥️

 

Sending and spreading Love all over. – and let me enjoy this pregnancy ❤️God be with you all and can’t wait for our lil bundle of joy. Please do respect our unborn and not ask what we are having and when etc. we would rather keep it for ourselves 💕

Bullying is NOT COOL!

hey my beautiful readers,
Today I would like to talk about a sensitive subject. I hope after reading this if you are a BULLY you will change your ways, and if you are being BULLIED you will know that you are stronger then you think you are.

First of all, I want to apologize in advance if I use any bad words or say something to cause harm. It is not my intention I just want to make something clear.

There are all types of bullying. But I will touch upon cyber-internet/bullying. Reason why I choose that type is because in this generation we live in, this is probably (might be wrong) the most common way to bully someone.

The internet, phones, Media has so much impact on the kids now. It is unbelievable! Sometimes I will read stories about bullies and wonder why someone would actually go behind their laptops,phones, tablets etc to just start bullying someone and think it is absolutely okay. Well it is not.

firstly.. the moment you think of actually going behind your screens and type something horrible whether it is anonymous or not.. you should know that YOU are the person with problems and a low self-esteem! Why?? Cause you feel like you have to be nasty Towards someone to make yourself feel better. Did you know that, that is a form of jealousy?? Now as a bully you are probably thinking.. I am not jealous of him/her. Well you ARE. If you have to be nasty to someone, behind your laptop or phone. It also shows you have none to little self esteem. It does NOT mean that you should now go and face the person. It means that you can’t help but to hurt others because YOU are hurt yourself.

Why would you hurt someone else because of how you feel! S/he did not bring you to that position! Bullies often look for a victim which in THEIR eyes are weak. Sometimes, they go for the ones who they can’t face so they rather do it anonymously. Either way it is NOT COOL. When you are saying horrible things to someone online. Do you realize what you are doing to the persons spirit? They may not show it and front. But do you know if they cry themselves to sleep, hurt themseleves, become distant from family and friends and some even end up ending their lives. Think about it. Do you want Blood on your hands??? How does it make you feel when you do so? Good?? Well it shouldn’t cause the devil is busy working on you. Rather to release your stress and anger on someone online, why not talk about it to someone around you. Or find a phone to call every country has a team who helps. Ask someone at your school or university, at work. Or talk to your partner. If you don’t want to, why not ask someone online to help. Message someone who writes about these things. Read a book, find a hobby regardless TALK ABOUT IT. It will take so much weight of your shoulders.

I am not perfect but I would hate that someone is bullying my kids or they are bullies ! I will be very disappointed and also be the FIRST person to point it out and make sure it stops.
If you read this and you think you are at a low place u are free to message me. I don’t judge AT ALL ! We all make mistakes. Let us work together. I am not the greatest but maybe a word of advice can help you. This is for the bullies and for those who are getting bullied..

NEVER THINK YOU ARE WHAT THE BULLIES TELL YOU. Do not give in.

Talk to your parents talk to someone. Internet bullying is very powerful! And can harm in many ways. Do not let anyone online make you feel less worthy cause you are NOT! internet is there for show. So don’t let anything fool you. Do not harm yourself because someone makes you feel like it, they feel like shit so that’s why they want you to feel like that too. Remember the BULLY is actually the one with the problem not you!

Please do talk about it with someone, even if it is another form of bullying. They all count! Let the number of victims decrease cause it hurts me to find out another person decided to end it because s/he got bullied.

XO 😘 stay blessed

A woman’s power

Hey my beautiful readers, I hope you are all blessed.
Already mid June 2017. A year ago I got married to the love of my life, my son is already 7 months ( in a couple of days) and my daughter is doing great in school.

Today I would like to lift up my ladies.
Woman you are POWER.
Let us go back to November 2016.

On the day I gave birth to my handsome baby boy. He was born exactly at 6am, on Friday 18 November 2016. What you feel to realize then is that a few moments ago you were crying out for help, screaming and pushing a child out, just to end up seeing a small human being coming out, crying and next to you, seeing your partner praising God for giving you all the strength to do what you just did.
But what most people, especially men don’t realize is that after all that, there is the recovery. Fair enough not every recovery is the same but some do get complications. Complications after birth is never from God rather the devil not satisfied enough that you even gave birth to a healthy baby boy. There is was smiling all happy, 6-7 hours after giving birth I was allowed to go home. But then it started…

I lost my appetite, walking was a problem, just 48 hours after giving birth my husband called the ambulance from home and before we all knew it I was taken to the hospital. I was so weak, they had to call fire service and lift me through our window just to get me downstairs.

Getting to the hospital, I was in such pain but I was already giving strong painkillers at home (Morphine) and soon I got tested. Just to find out that my blood was infected. Only thing was with what? Temperature was between 39-41 yes I know it was bad, then I had gold shivers, I would shake and the whole bed would shake too. Hours later I was taken to the theater after they had done ultrasounds and to come out and find out there was a piece of the placenta left in my womb. WOW!

At that moment u don’t know what to think, but when the doctor tells your husband and your father that it was almost rotten, and that your wife was literally close to death, you realize how short life is. You see, the piece they found was so tiny, that with the ultrasound it was not possible to see it. They had to clean the whole of my inside to actually find out.

The next question would now be, BUT did they not check it when the baby came out. Well they did, in front of us, they examined it everything! Not one midwife but two. So imagine. When the devil is set to do something he will try his hardest to pass. But little did he know that MY GOD is bigger then him.

The recovery was much more painful, laying in the hospital bed for 4 nights, not being able to walk, turn, eating was an issue, machines all around me, I was literally laying in bed. Then getting someone to actually teach you to walk with crouches and doctors telling you that it will take minimum 3months before I could make small movements and even longer to actually walk again by myself. I used to cry every single night. Not only because I was in pain,but to actually think, I was close to death, I had a son who isn’t even a week old, and I could not even hold him to feed him. My mum would come to the hospital with the kids and my daughter would just have tears. She would go home and cry herself to sleep. My son is too young to understand. My daddy had tears, my cousins would try and smile, my friend would come and sit by me help me get to the bathroom yet I could see the sadness in her eyes.
My husband would lay next to me and he slept with me at the hospital every night. Everyday tests running, everyday blood pressure, every day 3 different medications everyday nasty food, every day soup from mummy but no one could understand the pain I was in.

I would literally cry every night and my husband would comfort me, he would reassure me that I would walk again, he would reassure me that the pains will stop before the time they had given me. Finally I was allowed to go home. The walking crutch was at home, the toilet pot for the room was at home, the bathing chair was at home. Yet I still cried. My sleep was limited to 2 hours, just because I was in pain. My son looked older after a week, I felt even more weak.

I would practice how to move my legs without support and it hurt. I was stuck downstairs. The doctors told me to move as much as I could but I tried it hurt.

After 2weeks here I was making small movements, week 3 I went to the salon, my leg hurt a lot but I did not show it, week four church members came to visit us. I looked like I had no complications. Week 6 I went to my friends sons, naming ceremony and I could actually dance and praise God. Week 7 I attended church which was on New Year’s Day since then I knew 2017 was my year and that what the doctors said was not my destiny! God had other plans. God knew I would be able to go up and down within the time given to me. God knew me better then anyone else did.

I am grateful, because women don’t know their power.
God has given us so much power, we go through labor which is one of the most difficult things ever, it is not easy! You carry a whole human being for good nine months, just to push the baby out and not only is that painful, you also have to take care of the baby, regardless how tired you are. People fail to understand that WOMEN are POWERFUL. We were born with POWER, from young you want to help, from young you want to explore, from young you want to understand things. I mean it is the most beautiful thing to give BIRTH. While your partner is encouraging you, you get some strength from somewhere to do all the pushing. It is not easy to be a woman but it is a blessing. Every single person you see on the street, or have met was pushed by a woman. Everyone who reads this, respect that you came from a woman. Regardless if she has taken care of you or not, just the STRENGTH of letting you out is not easy.

I have two kids and both born naturally, you may ask me after your last experience would you do it again, trust me I doubted it, but I will do it again with pleasure. Why?? Because children are beautiful and I know every child I will get will also become a blessing unto someone in the future, my daughter will also push one day and I will be waiting outside of the delivery room to catch my grand baby, my son will find a wife who will also do the same, and I will also be outside of the delivery room to catch my grand baby. So if you are a woman and you are reading this regardless if you are a mom or not.

YOU ARE A BLESSING, YOU ARE POWER! 💕

 

Ps; since I had my son, I have only been more grateful to the Most High. And I am praying for every single woman around the world. Have a safe delivery and for the men, be there for the woman, if she just had a baby help out, if she tells you she feels some type of way press the bell, she might have some complications be alert and listen to the woman.
My prayers to every pregnant lady this 2017″ your DELIVERY SHALL BE SAFE AND SOUND. YOU WILL GIVE BIRTH AND WILL BE REJOICING ! God bless each one of you.

 

Next blog will be about ; my feelings after birth ; was I almost depressed?

What type?

What type of woman are you?

I bet you have asked yourself this question before, if you have not then there is something wrong with you to be honest. As we grow, from baby, toddler, teen, to our early 20, and setting towards WOMEN and one day BUSINESS WOMEN we go through so much in life. Our lives is set into stages. Every female goes through her own stage. You can not predict the future nor expect everything to go the way you want it to go. But you can find out what your position is as a woman.

I am going to make my own list of the types of positions or types of woman there are and it is for you to find out what type you are, and what you are aiming to be.

  1. the single lady

yes, single not ready to mingle? ok, lies she is ready to mingle maybe. But is not sure about her type of guy. She is open to date at all times, but remains single after every single date.

Advantage: She knows what she wants, and is open to any guy.

Disadvantage: She feels lonely at times.

2. The Independent lady- Married to my job

Independent lady she is either single (mostly), or has a partner but puts her career first. The independent woman who is single finds it difficult to find a partner because she is looking for a guy who is not weak and does not get in her way when it comes to her career. The independent woman with a partner is likely to have a partner whom is the sit at home guy or the total opposite. She always reminds him that she can hold her own.

Advantage: She holds her own, and is strong minded. She does NOT let anyone bring her down and makes it known to others.

Disadvantage: Is likely to look down onto partner, because she believes that her job is the most important thing and if he has no career she is more likely to let him know as well. Also she hardly has time to date if she is single.

3. The side chick – He has a girlfriend

The word side chick, is not really a nice word to use, but then again there are a lot of women who play this role. In my own words, I believe that she has chosen to be involved with someone who already has a partner. so like a second hand, or a second girl? This position surely brings problems. The side chick, plays a dangerous role and usually tries ends up unhappy when she realizes that she remains a side chick after a while and tries to change that position into a girlfriend or wife position. Which can be difficult but hey, there is no harm in trying!

Advantage: She is proud of her position and usually the one to make the guy happy

Disadvantage: No respect in other peoples eyes, and the likelihood of being dumped is high.

4. babymomma

Not everyone likes the word Babymama, Babymomma, Babymother etc. But hey, how would you describe it? A woman who has a child with a guy and they are not married? A woman who has a child with a guy and they have no relationship? A woman who has a child with a guy and he has other children? I have no idea but I once called myself a Babymother. or am I still one? Well I would classify it as having a child with a guy who will become your past.

Advantage: A beautiful BABY!!

disadvantage: You don’t really know your role?

5. Wife- I do

the role of a wife, a woman whom is married. she has become one with her partner. She has been chosen by a man to be joined as one. And are basically married till death do them part.

Advantage: You find your soulmate, you have someone you love and want to die with

Disadvantage: It is a big step to take!, you can become a widower.

6. Widower

Sad but true, you find the man of your dream but then end up being alone on this earth because something tragic happened. Women choose to stay alone after this, some re-marry! It is all a choice. But a widower is not something you want to become, however when you marry this is a chance

advantage: You cherish your partner and choose to spend the days loving him, but then again is this really an advantage?

Disadvantage: you become lonely at times, you miss your partner and can become unsure if you will find someone like him again.

 

These are my different types of women, I might have explained it wrongly in your eyes, but this is how I view it. what type are you? and which one do you want to become?

thanks for reading x

 

 

 

I appreciate you.

As human beings, we sometimes struggle to let people know how much we appreciate them in our lives. I am guilty of this. I forget to tell people or even show how much I appreciate them. But in my heart I can say how much I appreciate a person. Or when I pray I do pray for those I appreciate. But for someone who does not see it, it comes across as ungrateful. Which I understand.
So I want to dedicate this blog to my loved ones, known and unknown.

First and foremost, I want to thank the big Man above for my life. I can’t express and tell how much I appreciate God in my life. I commit sins and I disobey him a lot of times, but when I get on my knees and pray or speak to Him he understands me.  we tend to only know God when we need him the most. When things are not going our way. We then ask God for help, if He does not do what we asked for right away we blame him. But always appreciate the man above because you are here TODAY.

My dear Husband,
Appreciation is an understatement. The things he has done for me and how he has changed me is not for the whole world to know. But some things are meant to be said. You have accepted me as I am, regardless of my past or my present. You are always looking towards our future. You are the most selfless person in the world. You are the only one I can actually call at anytime or disturb and still hug afterwards. You know how to get on my nerves and when to make me laugh. Our marriage has shocked people but we are still going strong. Yes we have arguments, yes we have our highs and lows but who doesn’t? We are different from others because we have told our self so. We do what married couples do and we stand out. We believe in each other and motivate each other. We advice each other and stand up for each other. I appreciate you a lot especially after the past weeks. (Like I said not everything is said) you showed me how much you love me and how much we needed each other. Now we have entered a new chapter in life where we have a new family member. Our baby boy Phareés. I thank God and you for his life 💙

Dear friends, – who I speak to regularly
I love you dearly, I don’t have to tell you this everyday but you should know I care. For those who message me, or talk to on a regular basis you know the feeling already. The things you guys have done for me, words cannot describe. From helping me when I was in need, to feeding me, to just being a shoulder to cry on. And the list goes on. There are people who are good in being there for those who are in need and this is for you. You are appreciated. And I pray that you continue to be in our lives, not only mine.

Dear Friends, – Who I hardly speak to
I care about you, and you are in my heart. Us not speaking can mean a lot of things. Unspoken words. Which can damage the heart and the brains. Not speaking can drive us apart which can go both ways. Sometimes it is a good thing, because not everyone is meant to stay in your life at a certain period/ season of your life. I have learned from my good friends mother that, some friends are seasonal. It does not mean that you and the person are arguing. But God places them for a season which can be months, a year or even a period of 10 years. When you are being divided it can be in different ways. It does not mean that you do not think about them casually but you simply do not associate with them as before. God makes space for someone new to come and replace them or to even do something better in your life.

You can stop talking to someone and in that period you will get the job you always wanted, why? Because it was time for changes. You can become friends with a certain somebody and then you meet your husband/wife, why? Because it was time for changes. So adding someone onto your life is not a harm, and removing someone is also not a harm either. Always listen to your God. And do appreciate those who were there for you. If we are all to become negative about our old associates then we will be bitter forever. Those people have benefitted our lives before. They have done something for us we will never

Forget. Therefore we think about them and we appreciate them not everyday but once in a while. We still think about them or pray for them. You also are appreciated from a distance.

Dear Parents,
Where do I start with you two. My mum and my dad. I could write a book about those two people cause they are so different and I have learned to deal with both characters. Growing up with parents who are divorced it is not easy. Always being on one side and as an African parent you should know how it goes. But now being a mother myself and also once being a single mother before I met the love of my life, I knew exactly how my mum felt. But I chose to do it a bit differently. It is true when they say that the person you associate yourself with you will become like them. Reason being that I have picked up my mothers character so much! I am happy with the woman I have become right now. I would not change for anyone.
My dad is also a guy I would not change as he has a different character then my mother. He is the calm and gentle one and only speaks when he feels he has too. You will now think, well that is an easy guy to live with? No it is not. Cause I wanted that man in my life. But then again I would not change myself for anyone.

My parents are the best, they only show it differently. My mum is not the type to show you her love or to even say the words, I love you. (SO ME) she rather play the tough woman and does her thing. She is much appreciated for everything she has done, yes including our arguments and the fights HaHaHa!😂 I know how to clean, cook, be a mother and when not to shut up cause of her. She has been the greatest grandmother to my kids and shows her love through them. She knows how to care for us all and shows it by cooking, cleaning, taking care of them and just by starting unnecessary arguments with me. I’m used to you MaMa!!*

My daddy, shows love by calling on  a daily basis (literally!) And he tells me. He shows it in his face. He cares by asking how we are doing, he cares by having conversations, he is trying to fix what he left broken and I have opened up, welcomed him. He is human!  We don’t argue anymore, we talk like grown ups, he has grown to become my friend as well. I can ask him anything and he will answer, or find a solution and get back at me.

MaMa and PaPa you are much appreciated ❤🌍 you have thought me so much about life. And now I am a mother and a wife. My journey just started and I will continue to make you proud. You stood by me when I was down, when I misbehaved, when I need you. Even when it was going well you still stood by me. Every decision I made although you will try and come up with another solution, you will still support me at the end.
I love you.

Last but not least,
Dear The unknown, – those I used to dislike or felt some type of way about.
Well, if I start saying I love you I would be lying to myself, but I care. You are the one who I looked at years ago and said EW, her/him. Or you are the one I heard about and thought s/he gets on my nerves. Today, I can say feelings like that are gone. Yes, I see you and I do not greet you.. maybe I should? Yes, we do not talk and I don’t associate with you, because we both have unspoken words. Should we meet up and talk? Not always. Some people you have never spoken to so what are you going to discuss? Start of by smiling or greeting when you pass by.
Some you used to talk to and now it has not come to the “seasonal friends but your now in the Unknown part”, a little hello will do. Even if you do not greet, what about showing appreciation?

Social media is now one of the ways to show appreciation, support each others businesses, comment or like something you know you would like but just because it is him/her you decided NOT to like it *GUILTY!* pray for them, they also have issues. Do not watch their downfall, or wish for it, rather encourage them *from a distance* if you can via friends! Everything is possible, you can even learn from the Unknown *GUILTY* appreciate them! Cause I am starting to!

Ok, have to stop now, appreciation is

Done from within. You have to do it from the heart. As soon as it leaves the heart you choose how you pass it on to the person.

Do you tell them face to face?
Through the phone?
A letter?
Through a friend?
By buying them a present?
By treating them?
Through Social media?
Or you do it through prayers?

You can come up with many ways of showing appreciation. The important thing is that you do it for yourself and from the heart! You do not have to do it in front of people or let the world know, but the little you do for that person is what counts.

Show your appreciation today.. tomorrow is NOT promised.
Love your neighbour as yourself. And you shall be blessed today. Maybe God wants you to do this so a door will be opened for you today! TRY IT! and you will be surprised. Maybe there is something which has been left unsaid.. Open up first.

God bless you for reading this… 💓
Take care and stay Blessed.. inspired by Hubby❤ and my children Mercedes💛 and Pharees💙

It’S a Boy !

Hey my lovely readers!

Good afternoon, welcome in Month number 10 out of 12. Time is literally flying by like ….. Anyway the title says it all.. It’s a BOY! yes, yes yes, I had my first ever baby shower! and I want to tell you all about it. I might leave some details out which I generally forget as I am so forgetful nowadays!

So I had been planning the day for like 6-7 weeks I must say. And its so funny because when I started I literally told my husband and he thought I was in a rush. And I know people around me thought the same. I had friends who told me to wait and also suggested that it should be a surprise but I warned everyone around me in advance that I did NOT want any surprise shower, WEIRD?! well I had my reasons.

first of all it was my first time, so I had a specific imagine of how I wanted it to be in my mind. And as far as I was concerned no one could do that for me LOL! secondly, I had the feeling that if I left it and it would of turned into a surprise, I would not have all the people I wanted around me, which means I would be disappointed. TRUST ME stuff like that GETS TO ME! and thirdly, I just did not believe anyone could do it like I did it ! HAHAHAHA!

and I think I was slightly right, because of the compliments I got on the day and after, well I pulled it off nicely. Okay, so what I did was I started buying little things from like August (yes I did), and like I said before I had a vision of how I wanted it, but the funny thing was I was not sure if I could actually do it. because I wanted to do it by myself. so anytime a friend as for help, I would say sure.. but what I got to realise is that no one really helped me. I really did not mind cause I wanted it my way. the good thing was I did have like 2 people who did bother helping by suggesting things which was of good help. I for instance bought the goodie bag based on my cousin who saw it and I fell in love. and little things such as colours, was hard to choose but I got there at the end. But then the hardest part for me was getting the cake and the goodie bags.

So finally I saw the cake I wanted, I stole someone’s idea I wont lie about that one! I fell I love the moment I saw that cake! so that was out of the way, then my main issue was, how many people would I invite, and what would be in my goodie bags. so that is when me and my partner had to sit down and discuss. Can I be honest and say, we LITERALLY wrote down names and we started crossing off, and stuff. because as far as he was concerned it was my big day and I had to be happy with the people who came. So we did it together but with me in charge as he wanted me to enjoy the day. So we started and still it was very difficult as I had more then I expected. My plan was to keep it small and have just a certain amount of people around. Finally when I had that, I was still not sure about the goodie bag, although I was always online buying stuff. so finally I decided on it and weekly I bought a few things which I could put in. I already knew I did not want everyone to have the exact same thing.

so the day before, my mum came and did the decorations and Jessica helped with the food cleaning and also with the décor. (what would I have done without them??) And finally On that same day I realized that what I imagined was successful and even better! Thanks to our massive table.

I looked at the décor and at the goodie bag as well and I was sure I was ready for the next day. So on the day itself, my make up was done by Mrs Josephine. and Peter surprised me by taking pictures. whiles everyone was coming in. and I was all dressed up I was very happy. Lori Kelly was my host and she did a great job. My partner on the other hand was busy in the kitchen. He ended up being in the kitchen the WHOLE DAY! he was so supportive and of such great help, he made me so happy although I wanted him away from the kitchen he just could not leave that place! He made sure everyone was fed and drinks were more than enough. My cousin Joycelyn was of such great help to earlier as she cleaned up and helped me set up everything.

I must say each person that came made me happy and I could not have asked for any other people to be around me. The guys who came showed so much love and support and I loved how everyone took part in all the games we played. there were prices to be won and all sorts. At the end I opened up my gifts and I was totally amazed about all the gifts my Babyboy received! its funny because I needed at least 90% of the things my self hahah, as I did not buy many things myself knowing of the baby shower. and a special shout out to my baby girl and her husband who send us clothes from New Jersey. my baby will be rocking American clothing  love you Mr and Mrs Acquah-Afriyie

But I can say God bless everyone! who came, the ones who messaged me, and the ladies who helped me throughout! OH and last but not least my big cousin Sandeep Specials (  who was in charge of the cake!) the cake was perfect and it tasted perfect! so if you are in Holland! and you want some cakeeee… runnnn to her! I will provide a link to her Facebook site! and if you need any decorations I can easily ask my mother! or I can be of help myself, I am not afraid to tell you where I purchased my things ! and NO I am not someone who can decorate but I can always be of help, or help planning a shower for a small amount of people only!!! I am no professional so I am letting you know in advance.

but that was it, pictures soon to come, but you can take a look at my Instagram account where I posted a 9 sec video of the table. IG: Yaabablack

Sandee’s specials –

https://www.facebook.com/sandeesspecials/?fref=ts

Love, peace and HUGS” !

ps: I found some names in the name suggestion jar, 3 of them were already on my list! but I would not reveal which ones they were. All of you have to wait and see if we will choose that name or if we got one our self.. x

 

Understanding Gods word

Happy August everyone. welcome to month 8 out of 12, 2016.

I hope you are all enjoying your summer, either holidays, work or just doing nothing! well, my summer has been work, work and once more work! I must say I wish I was at a sunny destination, with a bikini on and some nice cocktails in my hand HAHA. but No I am pregnant and working!

Todays blog will be about ; Understanding Gods words when He speaks!

I will base this on personal, and other peoples experiences. When we sit down and decide to pray what is the first thing that pops in your head? Or when you want to plan something and in your mind your not too sure of how to start the plan what is the first thing that pops in your head? It can be various things.

There are many people who do believe in Gods words to an extend. Well the majority of the ‘Believers’ actually. Why am I saying this? Because we like to post about How great He is, and that we are Thankful of seeing another day, We love to worship him, but do we mean it? Or are we saying it because it benefits us at the moment. *guilty*

I start of with myself. I am guilty of these things at times. Because one, I sometimes feel like I am too busy to even Honour God. Why? because at the moment of time It is going well. But when things are not going the way it should be, then I remember that I have that little 5minutes for Him. Is that even right? You don’t even like it when your own friends treat you like that. better yet you end up not calling them YOUR FRIENDS if they only message or call you when they need something from you. so why do you feel the need to let Him above call you HIS CHILD? you certainly do not act like one.

You see, we are guilty of the fact that we do NOT always understand when God speaks to us. And we start to wonder why things are not going the way it should be. Or we start to question God, and wonder why non-believers or other people’s things are working out for them but yours is not. This what you need to understand.

  • God wants you to know that regardless of what you do He still loves you ( 1 John 4:8)
  • You need to spend time with God every day to understand him ( psalms 119: 34, prov. 2:6)
  • He is the only one who can give you eternal life ( 1 John 2:25, Titus 1:2)

I have questioned God countless times, why? because He did not do as I asked. Did I blame myself then? NO I blamed God! because I asked him for help and He did not do as I said. As humans we always point fingers. because it is so easy! – It is her fault, He started first etc. But did you look at the cause of it? Did you even do it from your heart? Was it meant for you? I strongly believe that there is always a ‘Judas’ amongst people. He sat with Jesus and yet betrayed Him! he ate with him, walked with him, talked with him so why can’t the same be with you! That is why you have to always have God on your side. Jesus knew Judas, he just didn’t no himself! If you understand God speaking, you will also know the Judas from afar! and you will be able to solve your issues before it arises. You do not want to be caught in a difficult situation first before you call upon The Father! NO! you want to have him as your best friend, on speed dial at all times. Able to call upon him, like we check our phones regularly. How we are up to date with the latest fashion, or the news. If we considered speaking to God more, we would understand his words! and we would be able to identify any Judas in our lives.

Judas comes as a disciple of Jesus in the bible. The Strange woman comes as a prostitute in the bible. The Devil was once a gorgeous Angel and comes in different shapes and forms. so why surprised when your troubles look like, finances, a friend, a family member, your manager, food poison, an animal or even a church member?  Understand when God speaks and you will identify them from afar! Do not wait till it goes all wrong first. God loves you, so you can make your own choices. Do not choose the wrong one.

Understand his words, start today, and you will never be the same. When He starts to bless you, STILL keep his words. when it rains, STILL keep his words. for the bible says that “no weapon formed against you shall prosper”, therefore be ready to fight the weapons, but KNOW that NONE will prosper! so there will be a fight, but you will win. ONLY with Gods understanding. because when you have two people who speak different languages, the communication is poor. but when you get to understand each other, by getting to know each other and spending time together. you will understand each others words.

God bless you this afternoon/ We are ready for work (L).