Hey beautiful readers,
GOD WHEN WILL I MARRY?!
This is a question a lot of women especially ask themselves and
ask God. But is it the right one?
Even if a woman has not said it out loud in this day and age
most of the unmarried women have
asked themselves or God this question and probably even
asked God so many times, you think he put you on standby.
But is it the right question to ask?
I will be answering this based on experiences I have had with
others and on what I see.
This does NOT mean that it will also apply to you.
We as women tend to feel that we are getting older and
want to make sure we marry and have kids.
I get that. as we have some sort of “deadline” to conceive
a child. Or we often get pressured by family members.
This last one is very common in African households.
We are often told to marry and the next day the families
are already asking when the child is due.
Now a days when you hit the ages 23+ a woman is
more likely to change her
prayers to God when will I marry. Instead of thinking
about other factors in life. Like I said not everyone
does this. But when you turn your prayers into
“God when will I marry”, you know God can answer
that prayer easily!
But will you be happy with the marriage? We tend
to ask for things without knowing what we are really
asking for, so when we do get it we are not sure
how to handle the situation.
I will give you an example.
Asking to marry. You can and God will help you marry.
But what you did not
ask for is how to be a wife and find the man
who would love you how he should. We end up
settling with the man and not getting the marriage
we wished for. All you get is the wedding and the
status of a wife but are you living up to the status
and is your other half? Did you pray for that too?
when we then get put in that
situation a woman tends to now cry out and ask
God why she is in that situation at that moment
she finds it hard to deal with it and faces
so many obstacles.
Woman do not pray for God to let u marry. And do
not feel old for your age. I strongly believe the right
man will come and you will know! Sometimes he is
already there but the timing is off. Yes there are
some people who have kids before
marriage I am a example of one. But that does
not stop you from getting to know the one.
Being 30 and being successful and not married yet
is not a crime neither is being 22 and
being married. But I would rather be in my 30s and
have a great marriage than in my 20s
to have a failed one. And one thing you should also
know is it is better to get out of a toxic marriage
than to stay in it for other people’s sake. No one
knows what you go through or see.
Do not put yourself in a situation which will follow
you your whole life and make you miserable
just because you want to please others.
Or because you are ashamed of reactions.
If we talk about ashamed I am also an
example of that but this
should not stop you from doing what
is right for you.
Learn to be happy for yourself and not others.
Learn to make decisions and not ask
others to do or decide for you. At the end of the
day when you ask God to bring you a husband
he will, but you will be the one to deal with
him as a good or bad husband! Do not ask for
things your not ready for. And specially Africans
and Christians stop deciding what is best for
your children because most decisions you
made were of and not because your one
turned out bad does it mean theirs would as
well. Leave your children to make decisions
themselves and support your child regardless
if you don’t always agree.
Turn your “God when will I marry” to
“God prepare me for my other half” ,
cause trust me when you ask Him to prepare
you and you are NOT ready he will
make you ready before you make the step!
And when the time comes you will know
what to do because you were prepared for it!
Wishing you a beautiful final weeks of 2019.