Jealous of who?

jealous resentment against a rival, a person enjoying success or advantage, or against another’s success or advantage itself.

Recently I was having a conversation with my other half about general things in life, and we got to talking about women and male and how much jealousy there is amongst women.

mental uneasiness from suspicion or fear of rivalry, unfaithfulness, etc., as in love or aims.

I quickly said it is true but then added to it that I personally believe everyone has a jealous something in them.

vigilance in maintaining or guarding something.

The reason why I said that and I hope you would agree to is, we are human beings and i believe we all have faults. Someone may have more than the other but regardless we all have faults. This is all natural so you should never think you are the only one who has faults or issues. Everyone does but every person is made differently hence why someone can hide their faults and make it look like they don’t have any.

a jealous feeling, disposition, state, or mood.

If you read the definitions i wrote on above (thanks to google) I decided not to put one definition but 4. Because point 1 may not apply to you but maybe another definition would. The reason why I believe everyone has a bit of jealousy in them is, because we are imperfect and are striving to become perfect or at least better in what we do. So as humans it is only natural to want something someone else already has, or have been working on to get but can’t seem to get it. Jealousy is a sort of fear which everyone has. We all fear something or someone. Don’t doubt that. Whether it is an animal, an object, God,life death or an illness. We all fear something. And right besides fear is jealousy.

 

You see you may hear great news from a friend or relative and be happy, but we mostly end up with words back in our head saying why not me? Or why her or him.This is a sign of jealousy, you may smile it of but your emotions are running to the other direction. There is nothing wrong with that, but it does become a problem when you let jealousy take over. Then you just become bitter and unfaithful towards the person, or thing.

When jealousy grows, it becomes hate, negative energy and one thing you will realize is that it sucks up so much energy, time and mental problems it is not well. People do suffer from it but can’t give themself a new for it. Some turn it into depression or any other form of it. I am NOT saying all depressions are jealousy, but most of them are. It starts from there. Your fear of not getting something done or how you want or expected it to be turns into resentment.

 

Both men and women suffer from it, just that women let it become so much more part of them. Women tend to be more jealous of things and others because society made us. We are asked to be good in school, dress well, respect others and ourselves. Marry before kids have kids basically THE DAY AFTER MARRIAGE (trust our Africans to ask you the day after, when is the baby due), be a wife material, if your from a religious family (Christianity, Muslim) then there is even more pressure applied. And be great at all times. Today’s society is applying more pressure, BOBs, social media, body being snatched, holiday goers, the list goes on and if you are not one of the mentioned or don’t participate in one of the activities you will tend to ask yourself what is wrong with me” Why him, or her. Why this and that. But i want to let you know that society does not have to define you. You have to be YOU. And if things are not going according to plan. Do NOT give up. Giving up should NOT be an option.

I will always use myself as an example. Someone wants what I have and probably don’t appreciate. And someone else does not want any of it but I do want it.

YOUR LIFE IS YOURS ONLY. What you have now is YOURS, what is coming will COME! Appreciate things in life now. Tomorrow is not promised. So let the bitterness, anger, fear, jealousy be far away. It really drains a person out.

Pay your bills and what you have left enjoy it. Call your friend and go for brunch, book that holiday even if it is alone. Sort out your relationship others are trying to destroy. Give love a chance. Great people when you are walking by them. Smile to others when you can. Ask your children how their day is going. Buy ice cream and eat it whiles standing in the sun and relax your shoulder. Netflix and have popcorn on the side.and stay away from negativity. The next person bringing that energy tell them to keep it away cause you are renewing your mind.

You will feel much lighter and see changes in yourself and others around you. Jealousy is a disease which only YOU can cure if you give yourself the chance to. That picture with 10.000likes also got issues, the girl next door also got issues. The men at the gym also got issues. So don’t think you are alone just don’t let jealousy take over!

 

Ps dear Jealousy, I know you are there, and you will always be there, but you see you will never take over my happiness and love. Stay tiny🤗

 

Letter to my first…

14.50PM

On a saturday afternoon. I remember it like it was yesterday. The sun decided to show her (yes,is a female) face.

Little did I know how life would turn out to be, all I cared about was the tiny feet which I was admiring after coming back from the surgery room.

Weighing about 3380kg (7 1/2 pounds) my mum and I welcomed Mercedes 🧡

Now exactly 10 years after, I am grateful for keeping you. I wanted to abort you, because I was scared, ashamed, embarrassed, confused, in pain but here we are today. If I told the world what you have done, no one would believe me. But I will share this, you saved my life a dozen times without knowing.

You are an angel, you have supernatural powers, you changed me, even if I did not want to. You forced me to make certain decisions even if it hurt me. But never have I ever doubted the love I have for you.

When I was inside i remember when youwould come to visit, and had to leave you would force me to get up and come with you..

When you first started school in the Netherlands, you did not like it because you could not understand them

When we had nothing to eat, you looked at me,hugged me and said.. Mama, alles komt goed (Mum, everything will be alright)

When you saw me struggle to get food on the table, you would still try and give me your last bit of food.

When you get money you would rather give it to me then use it yourself

When I asked you what you wanted, you said for mummy to have a lot of kids.

I can go on with a list of things…

But now 10 years on, I look back and think, after all the backlash, the ones who turned us down, who had negative comments to say about us, and who did not wish you well. Today they see YOU and they smile. They see YOU and they are shocked. Because honestly, you are a beautiful “lightskinned” princess!!

Not because your my girl, but you really have a heart of GOLD.

10 years of struggle, love, hope, pain, sorrow, good health, joy, friendship.

May God continue to guide you ❤ my baby Mummy Loves you.

And you know you have to read this right😂.

May the double figure bring u success, love and positivity only.

2019, started great! May your 10th birthday be greater!

Mummy.

28 and kicking

So, I promised to do more blog posts and I have been failing!! Well happy new year first of all!

We are in February and a sister has turned 28🎉! As I always do, write down my goals I want to achieve this year I just decided to have my goals in my head and pray about it. And I also decided to take more bold steps or else I won’t be able to achieve my goals by 29.

Honestly, so far so good. I can’t complain! I have also decided that I would be going to more events to support my own instead of doing this by sharing posts and just reccommending to others

So my BOBs do send me invites I will try my best to be at your events and other activities happening! Let’s get together and chat!

Show me what your about.. send me info

28 means, favor greatness and bold

X

MsHair.uk Review

Hey Beautiful Readers,

Your girl is BACKKK! I know this is actually the first post of 2018, and 2018 has actually come to an end😅.

Do forgive me, as ALOT has happend and I got too much to tell you! But this post will not be about my life. It is about a product I purchases recently from

MSHAIR.UK, and I want to do a review about their product! I know I know, Youtube would’ve been great, but since I am not on youtube y’a should just read this and understand me 🤣.

Basically, i got tagged in this and i did not even hesitate to get it. Well, MsHair UK basically made my dream come through. I don’t have edges to save my life! So this company sells this product which makes you have edges for the Gawds, within SECONDS!

yes, Seconds!? I will put up some pictures so you can see my before and after. And I will tell you what I think of the product.

The company specializes in a foundation fibre that gives you edges or covers grey hair.

I purchased the hair foundation fibres with the edge perfector. It was easy to purchase, and like the website stated it will be dispatched 12-36hours and they did. I got my delivery on time and i liked the packaging.

I got so excited as well and could not wait to use it. Honestly I was happy!

As a natural lady, i had my hair washed 2 days before, put some eco styling gel nd a bit of Wax for my “edges” so after styling my hair nd putting it in a puffy bun, i then applied the fibre from MsHairUK. Within a minute or two i was done and satisfied!

My edges were fleeked for the day, and imagine it was also on my friends babyshower which i co-organised and hosted. And it was fleeking all day.

Me being me, i did not use a scarf to sleep (I honestly don’t like that), woke up nd gone😂 i did not expect it to stay but at least hang in there small 🙄😂😂.

Anyway, rating it 0-10, I give it a 8. Why not a 10? Because I did not purchase the whole kit. So i believe with the whole kit, it can get a 10. Also, what i noticed is while applying, i thought I would have the fibres on my clothes.. but NO! Proper CLEAN! And you don’t have to worry that you will sweat it off. So would I reccommend it to my sisters ? YAAAAAAS!

It is worth any penny. And believe me I don’t use it on a daily basis but you will know when I have it, cause I will be doing the most🤣.

To purchase the foundation fibre kit

IG: Mshair.uk

Website: http://www.mshair.co.uk

And if you have questions you can ask them on their website as well.

My Befores…

And After the Use of the product🤗

#SupportingBOB #MShair.UK #NaturalHair

Feel free to leave a message or comment behind. This post was my review and based on my experience.

If you want to see how I use it and create a nice simple Look, i will post a video On SnapChat this coming saturday (27Oct) so follow me

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Waiting for your time to shine

Good day my beautiful readers. I hope all is well with you all. It has been a while and I was meant to write a post already but anytime I started, I felt like the message was not good enough.
So now I am, just a day or two before the new year. Some people have made a whole list of things what they are going to change or do for 2018, some are just waiting for the clock to hit midnight and drink and others, are probably jus going to sleep or will be at churches, mosques or family.

Whatever you choose to do, and however you choose to celebrate 2018, do it with love. Unfortunately some may be mourning over a death, or even someone close to you is sick. You are also in my prayers and I wish you the best and hope you stay strong.

The title for today is “waiting for your time to shine”. It was quite difficult for me to get a good topic for this post as I will point out a few things. As you may already know (if you have read my previous posts) I always talk from my own personal experiences and of people I know of. What I don’t know for sure I rather not talk about. Reasons because I do have people genuinely messaging me asking advice or encouraging me, and I appreciate it and feel it, simply because I have experienced it or I know someone who has so it always feels real to me.

Waiting for your time to shine, when you read this sentence you probably think.. waiting for the day that YOU MAKE IT. Well yes and no.
Yes because we have All gone through a tough time in our lives. Someone reading this may even go through it now. When I say tough I mean difficulty! This is all different to one another.
My difficulty can be financially not being able to provide for my family, whereas someone else’s difficulty is finding love. Someone can go through a death of a family member or friend, when someone else is finding it difficult to be a good yoke has their struggle and I am here to let you know that IT IS OKAY!

You see what I have learned is, whenever you go through a difficult time, and you pounder on it, the only thing that is happening is that it becomes worse. Why? Because you are just stressing about it without taking action. Some decide to now go and discuss it with everyone around them. Which can help but it is not everyone who needs to know about your difficulty or struggle. You see the tongue is powerful, and like I just said, everyone’s difficulty is different. So to you it may be a major thing but to your friend or sister it is nothing. And some don’t even understand why you find it difficult. Which is why I STRONGLY believe in there is a time to SHINE.

A few things what us young people do nowadays just not to let the world see that we are struggling and not even helping ourselves from our difficulties..

Social media, we tend to show of a lot! We will post the nicest pictures, at the nicest destinations, with our extraordinary outfits and caption things like.. God is good, and Living my best or any long post which makes it seem like we are doing fabulous. Great stuff, not a problem.. but do you know what you are doing..? You are just like the celebrities on TV who are always smiling yet, we All read and hear what happens the day after. Don’t fool yourself my brothers and sisters. Do not fool us on social media and after the post now think of how to pay your bills or ask God why no man wants you, or why no woman wants you.
Rather, post a picture yes, but don’t go on and captioning things which is far from the truth. And don’t deceive yourself with your own picture. If you are not the person in the picture why should you post it on your social media and fool us that it is you. Do not catfish yourself. Be true to yourself because you are not hurting us, but only yourself. Just for a few comments and likes which mean NOTHING. The comments are not true because we react based on what you tell us. A sister or a brother can not help you when you are posting pictures of you living life, but yet you need bread to eat. How can I know my brother or sister is starving? And you are shocked when a friend asks you for help, you cannot even help yourself. So be true to yourself.

Lying to our family or friends
I get it, sometimes you don’t want others to know you are going through difficult times, so instead of reaching out, you lie whenever you are asked if you are doing fine. Cool but there are people who actually care about you. Speak to someone about your problem.i did not say speak to PEOPLE. I said someone. There is ALWAYS someone who you can trust. And if you have trust issues, find a community an office, your religion a safe place, anonymous number, speak to someone! Trust me IT HELPS. Why do I say that, because your tongue is powerful letting it all out makes you feel not only better but it can release some stress. It can help you. And funny enough the person who you are speaking to may even find a solution to your problem. Don’t always play superhero and think you can do it by yourself. I used to be that person.

Always thinking I can do it myself and then kept it for myself and always trying to solve my own issues. But it may even be more difficult because you have only one mind. Another persons mind can help you. And yes it did. Do you think I don’t struggle at times, yes I do, and because I have a partner the first person I turn to is my partner. And we solve the issue together. Even as a mother and wife, I cry at times because I think I am having a hard time solving an issue until my partner tells me not to worry and we find a solution together.
Couples cry singles do to. Rich people cry and poor people do to. So never think that your situation is to much or too little to discuss or solve.

Therefore wait till it’s your time to shine. Not literally wait by not doing anything.
Looking for a job.. get up do research search for that job, ask people don’t keep quiet. Yes maybe the first two, three maybe even four applications will be thrown away but YOUR TIME WILL COME.
You can’t find love, we’ll start loving yourself. It’s not everyday falling for any person you see. Change your ways. Change your attitude, your way of thinking, your bad habits. If you are a religious person you pray. The love will come. Double check yourself. Maybe it’s as simple as, being clean, doing your hair, going barbers, brushing your teeth when you get up. Learning to cook, stepping outside your comfort zone. Nothing putting such a high standard because nowadays we look at the person with the most money, who is popping in our area, girlfriend/boyfriend is the person going to love YOU only. Or is the person going to love the money and fame more then you. Don’t settle for less.

Don’t aim for a doctor if you yourself are not willing to help him/her when’s/he is off duty. Don’t aim for a billionaire, if you are not willing to walk next to your partner as one. Don’t aim for a wife if you can’t be her husband. Don’t aim for a husband if you can’t be his husband. Aim high yes, but always work towards the record you are setting. Don’t aim and expect someone who has that standard to do all the work and you now come and enjoy.

Do not let your friends talk fool you!
This happens EVERY SINGLE DAY. When that your friend is BRAGGING about his or her life, being all perfect like EVERY DAY. Let me tell you something IT IS NOT.
The person is a fake. S/he has more issues then you. If you have a friend who never seem to have it bad. They always have it worse then you. Don’t ever let it fool you.. and especially when it really seems like it’s all good because they have kids, married, a job, look well presentable. Baby boy, babygirl. It’s a lie ! They have put on a mask so that you won’t see it. What do you do to someone like that, stay away and don’t tell them YOUR problem because they are only hurting you and making your problem seem way worse then it already is. They won’t help you solve it, they only make you feel more insecure about your own issue.

Listen!!
Be a good listener if you are not, try to always listen when someone speaks. Why? Because even a fool makes sense or says something that sticks in your head. Only take the positive things in mind. Trust me. A stupid person even will say something which s/he is not meant to say, a person who talks to much, well talks way to much. A sensible person will help you by listening. Sometimes we have to be silent and just listen! I talk a lot at times, but I have learned to also listen. I listen to people and pick up what will benefit me. If it doesn’t I will throw it out of my mind. If I am unsure I will ask or research about it. That is what I do now. Everything which comes out of my friends mouth is something I pick up.if it’s not important best believe the next time you ask me I won’t remember, because I have thrown it away.

Wait for your time to shine, how do you do that.
Whatever your problem is, big or small. It is never TOO much you can’t handle. It may seem unbearable but you are dealing with it and will survive. Someone else can not handle it but You can and the day will come that you will laugh about the situation or even yet understand why you went through that situation.
Sometimes things happen to us so that we turn our lives around. Sometimes w have to go through tough times, to get our own attention. You see I will always say that me going to prison was my own fault. I committed the crime, before I used to say the devil this and the devil that. It was on ME. I needed to shift my attention to something and I didn’t I was ignorant and the only way to do that was to go through what I went through. And that is how I gotten to sit down and focus on myself. And if I had not been there, I am pretty sure that I would not have found my husband and have my babies.

So I can honestly say I am grateful for all the difficulties I went through. I have been through more obviously but being put away was probably the biggest thing. Also being a child who’s father was not around much was a difficult situation I had to deal with and still did when I was older. But because of actions I took and he took we are now so close. I have learned to forgive him he has forgiven himself and now me and my father are besties trust me. We call eachother at least 2-3x a week and see eachother often. We have spoken of our issues, and I did that by several letters. I have also shown him how I appreciate him on my big day and had my first dance with my father. Something I was wishing for. Some may dream of other things but I have fulfilled my dreams.

Really I have a husband, kids and my parents that I’ve both told I love. So if waiting for my time to shine was nothing. Then nothing would be worth it.

My sister my brother, whatever you are going through, it is never too much to handle and never too small to discuss. Your time to shine will come. And I hope I have helped someone by this post.

 

Please feel free to message me or comment under my post. And tell me about your difficulty that you overcame.maybe your difficulty that you went through can help another reader. Let’s help eachother!! You can also message me anonymously maybe I can help by just listening to you or if i can be of help I will try my best. Trust me if I don’t know the answer I will TELL YOU.
Let’s not judge one another and be people of love.

2018, is around the corner and I don’t do new year new goals, I only do new year added to my life, extra goals! I add my goals on my birthday so hopefully my new post will be up around my birthday.

Have a blessed new year in advance❤️. Be careful with fireworks and don’t drink to much beautiful people ❤️